Letting Go and Holding On

By: Stella Orange

Here’s a fresh stick of gum for your chewing pleasure:

When you’ve done your work for a long time, you’ve learned the larger patterns. You see things more deeply. The work you do has done its work on you and your life, and it’s *in* you. It inhabits you.   

And then?

Something changes.

Maybe that change was something you started.  You wanted something. You didn’t want something. You wanted something else.

Maybe that change was something that seemed to sprout up inside you, but you didn’t quite *start* it.  More like it showed up one day. It started poking you. Whispering to you. Tugging at your sleeve.

Or maybe that change was something external to you. A global pandemic, say. Your largest client telling you they’ve changed direction and no longer require your services. A change in your market, or in your clientele.

Change change change change change!

Hey man, it happens.

And the thing that interests me the most here is how we respond with groundedness, a quiet creativity, and self-possession.

Also? How we respond in our own original way, in a way that honors and expresses the work we do, and even lets it open and stretch out into space even more.

I suspect that some of what we’ve picked up along the way needs to come with us into the future. 

But some of it? It’s become surplus. Ballast. Sandbags.

Now is a great time of year to start a list of what those things that are weighing us down might be, so that we can make arrangements and let them go.

Just sayin’.


Big love,

P.S. If you’re feeling called to seek accompaniment as you move, and grow, and change, please do reach out. Rebecca and I would be honored to support you on your journey.


Stella is cofounder and copywriter at Las Peregrinas, a creative and consulting agency. As our resident word nerd, she writes copy and points out the stories everyone is living and telling through their work. She is also fun at parties.



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